Sun Life knows its way to a mommy and a woman’s heart

They say that being a mother is the greatest job a woman could have. While the experience of motherhood is something that is not the same for every woman: some experience it early in life, while others (like me) take time to go through it; the worries and concerns of a woman towards her offspring and her spouse is the same.

Am I doing enough? Am I giving enough? AM I ENOUGH? 

Motherhood, they say, is when your heart beats for your child and your spouse, and almost barely for yourself. It is pure, selfless and harrowing at times. Where 24 hours is barely enough think about the chores at home, the times you need to spend with the husband and even plan about the kid’s future.

That is why “Mommy’s Day Out,” a recent event of Sun Life Philippines,   gives recognition to a mother’s selfless love by devoting one full day of pampering, learning and self affirmation to mothers.


The event, attended by mommy bloggers and online influencers, began with a lecture headed by Michelle Alignay, a family psychologist specializing in family studies. During her lecture, Alignay shared some key points and powerful affirmation techniques to the attendees on how they can balance being a mom, being a wife and being their own person all at the same.



This particular piece hits closer to home for me. As a wife, career woman and a person of many interests and side hustles, I can’t even barely make time for my supportive and loving husband. Imagine adding kids to the equation? I wrote before of my struggles in conceiving and how there are times, I am thisclose to giving up on having kids. While my heart always breaks into thousand pieces thinking of what could have beens if only parenthood came naturally to us after marriage. I would have a sassy grade schooler by now, who probably inherited his father’s winsome features and his mother’s stubborness; I would have been frazzled to heavens trying to balance career, family life and my interests/hobbies; I could have been saving up for that danged kid’s education and future.

Thankfully, Alignay’s lecture on devoting time for yourself, making your marriage work, and preparing for your family’s future is something that even I, can relate. Her message about devoting time for the husband, and making your marriage work strikes closer to home. For me and the husband, we have our movie nights where we geek out on superhero franchises and action movies. We also make it a point to travel together, which allows us to discover new things, not only about the places we go, but also with each other. We talk our plans, our dreams and our struggles as a couple.

When talking about future kids before felt like discussing about landmines because of our fertility struggles, we have become more open on how we still want to have kids, regardless on the process it will take. It can either be through science (we have yet to explore other more advanced methods) or maybe through adoption. While going through the adoption route is still a long way down the line, it’s still something we seriously consider.

No matter how the future kiddo gets handed to us by life, the husband and I agree on one thing: we want him to have a good future. One where he can explore his full potential and get the best education possible, without being hampered by financial concerns. If my future kid wants to explore UP or go to Keio or Tokyo University, who am I to stand on his way?

During the event, Sun Life Cluster Head Mylene Segismundo shared potential tuition costs to some of the country’s best universities 10 to 15 years down the line. To say we were flabbergasted is an understatement. The cost of education has become so expensive that, as a parent, you have no choice but to prepare for it. Segismundo shared that Sun Life’s “MyFutureFund” provides parents the capacity to get ready for their children’s education without breaking the bank and without putting  dent on their wallet. More importantly, “MyFutureFund” removes the worry of being able to provide for a good education to their kids from mommies and daddies.

Admittedly, the highlight of the day was the oh-so-wonderful full body massage generously arranged by Sun Life for the mommies and bloggers present. The venue was the beautiful, luxurious Onsen Spa at the I’M Hotel.



With every knead and pressure applied on my body, I can literally feel my stress, worries and all the bad vibes literally melting away. It was soooo good.  Onsen Spa at I’M Hotel does a good job of bringing the Japanese/Korean onsen/jimjimbang experience and I am loving the long yukatas, the darkened rooms with piped-in music and yes, the free-flowing green tea served on the spa reception area. I must have dozed off because the next thing I know, my friendly massage therapist, Rem lightly tapping of my shoulder. A sumptuous dinner at I’M Hotel’s Bloom Restaurant proved to be the perfect way to cap the evening.

I’d like to thank Sun Life and their friendly PR guy AR for having me during the event. I am not yet a mother, but I am a wife and career woman who also have the same struggles like any other woman thrust into family life. I may not have kids as of yet, but I still worry about their future. As reflected on the short film, “She Says, She Says” – I worry.  I worry that I may not be good enough, or ready enough when they come. I worry that I might not become a good mom. I worry that I will become one of those mommies who nag and helicopter-parent and work, but still fail to provide for their needs.

I worry that I, myself, might not be enough.

But thanks to the learnings and realizations of that day, I know that I will be okay. Me and Sun Life, we can make motherhood work.

 

 

 

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